Comments on: Mom’s Wise Advice for the New Year http://aspenleafhosting.com/cat/index.php/2010/01/moms-wise-advice-for-the-new-year/ Fri, 18 Jun 2010 10:55:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: cat http://aspenleafhosting.com/cat/index.php/2010/01/moms-wise-advice-for-the-new-year/comment-page-1/#comment-28952 cat Tue, 30 Mar 2010 14:11:56 +0000 http://aspenleafhosting.com/cat/?p=1073#comment-28952 I agree, you cannot push yourself away from yourself and deep inside, if you truly understand MPD to the core, that is inherently what you are attempting to do. You have to, instead, work together as a team if possible and not allow things to collide. This is hard, and not everyone has it mastered, as balanced as I am, I don't even have it down! So take it a day at a time and work on the internal system - but as this post says, also be sure you're surrounding yourself with positive and supportive people in the process. I agree, you cannot push yourself away from yourself and deep inside, if you truly understand MPD to the core, that is inherently what you are attempting to do. You have to, instead, work together as a team if possible and not allow things to collide. This is hard, and not everyone has it mastered, as balanced as I am, I don’t even have it down! So take it a day at a time and work on the internal system – but as this post says, also be sure you’re surrounding yourself with positive and supportive people in the process.

]]> By: Paul http://aspenleafhosting.com/cat/index.php/2010/01/moms-wise-advice-for-the-new-year/comment-page-1/#comment-28946 Paul Tue, 02 Mar 2010 18:36:11 +0000 http://aspenleafhosting.com/cat/?p=1073#comment-28946 I've been following these comments... I loved this post when you first made it public! For me, your advice (or your mother's) was really helpful because I had to do exactly what she was suggesting... kind of forced into it. I think your mother's advice is a bit different from this: "pushing positive parts of your life to the front and letting negative parts go away". If you are talking in general, yes, I agree. But if you are alluding to your MPD/DID system, I think that's problematic. It's easy to label certain parts bad and try to push them away. It generally sets up a conflict that cannot be won. Paul I’ve been following these comments… I loved this post when you first made it public!

For me, your advice (or your mother’s) was really helpful because I had to do exactly what she was suggesting… kind of forced into it.

I think your mother’s advice is a bit different from this: “pushing positive parts of your life to the front and letting negative parts go away”. If you are talking in general, yes, I agree. But if you are alluding to your MPD/DID system, I think that’s problematic. It’s easy to label certain parts bad and try to push them away. It generally sets up a conflict that cannot be won.

Paul

]]> By: cat http://aspenleafhosting.com/cat/index.php/2010/01/moms-wise-advice-for-the-new-year/comment-page-1/#comment-28945 cat Tue, 02 Mar 2010 15:28:13 +0000 http://aspenleafhosting.com/cat/?p=1073#comment-28945 Let me quickly say that she is not, she is a huge support for me and all that she says is encouragement. I don't get where you say that she's being contradictory, because she's basically saying to get the positive parts of your life and push them to the front, and let the negative parts go away. I'm confused as to where you see anything in that that could be construed as bad or not supportive? I don't mind you asking at all~I have a very close immediate family that has done nothing but support me through all that I have gone through. I'm proud to share that with others, so when you ask, it gives me an opportunity to let them shine! :) Let me quickly say that she is not, she is a huge support for me and all that she says is encouragement. I don’t get where you say that she’s being contradictory, because she’s basically saying to get the positive parts of your life and push them to the front, and let the negative parts go away. I’m confused as to where you see anything in that that could be construed as bad or not supportive?

I don’t mind you asking at all~I have a very close immediate family that has done nothing but support me through all that I have gone through. I’m proud to share that with others, so when you ask, it gives me an opportunity to let them shine! :)

]]> By: BiPolarGirl http://aspenleafhosting.com/cat/index.php/2010/01/moms-wise-advice-for-the-new-year/comment-page-1/#comment-28943 BiPolarGirl Fri, 19 Feb 2010 04:50:48 +0000 http://aspenleafhosting.com/cat/?p=1073#comment-28943 Hello. I am new on this site and probably making a right mess of it. I call myself BiPolarGirl. (Guess that says it all eh?) Cat is it your mother who says words of wisdom and comfort about telling whiners and complainers etc to leave you alone? You know, cut ties from people who drag you down? If so is she one of your earlier abusers? I hope you don't mind asking. I'm curious as to whether this is the case because then she sounds like a very contradictory person to me. Meow! Hello. I am new on this site and probably making a right mess of it. I call myself BiPolarGirl. (Guess that says it all eh?) Cat is it your mother who says words of wisdom and comfort about telling whiners and complainers etc to leave you alone? You know, cut ties from people who drag you down? If so is she one of your earlier abusers? I hope you don’t mind asking. I’m curious as to whether this is the case because then she sounds like a very contradictory person to me.

Meow!

]]> By: cat http://aspenleafhosting.com/cat/index.php/2010/01/moms-wise-advice-for-the-new-year/comment-page-1/#comment-28937 cat Mon, 01 Feb 2010 18:10:50 +0000 http://aspenleafhosting.com/cat/?p=1073#comment-28937 Paul, you have to remember that you are worthy. I have to remind myself constantly, I tend to forget. Paul, you have to remember that you are worthy. I have to remind myself constantly, I tend to forget.

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