I have had an ongoing saga with a company called Capital Management Services. It all started on a Friday afternoon when they called and left a message for a Chris B. on my cell. They left a reference number, so I called them on Saturday and had my number removed, since I am not Chris B.
They were very nice and said I should receive no more calls.
Since that date, I have been called up to three times a week. A few days I was called over seven times in a row. I will have a “missed call” and see that it is the Capital Management number. Then, when I call the number back, they inform me that without a reference number or an account, they cannot help me.
I really lost it when, on Memorial Day, I got five calls in a row and it was a holiday. I know it probably is a computer system contacting Mr. B. and somehow my number is in a loop where the computer calls until they get an answer. I do not know how to stop it.
My first step, yesterday, was to report the company to the Better Business Bureau, but even that probably won’t stop them. I contacted my cellphone provider and they said I can pay $4.99 a month to block the numbers, but should I have to pay to not get calls from them?
I’m debating this and I refuse to change my number, because I risk having the same problem with a new number, too! I will look at what steps I can take right now to find out who is calling and why. If I could just grab the phone before it becomes a missed call, maybe I could find out the reference number and get my number removed. I feel like James Bond now, carrying my phone around waiting for them to call.
Bad thing is, I answered the other day and was met with silence. That might happen again…then what do I do?
I’m still writing both with my online writing job and my blog. There was quite a bit of a break between posts before, and I realized that I was wanting to write about things when I found myself jotting notes down on my mobile phone’s notepad, post-it notes at work, and a paper pad next to my desk at home.
I always have so many things running through my head and before putting them here on my blog I process them over and over again. I probably police my writings too much but I have so much going on that I’m afraid something will be read and taken wrong or not read the way I’m trying to word it.
I’m still unsure why one of my biggest fears is to be misunderstood. In writing or in person I hate the feeling that someone doesn’t understand what I’ve said the way I mean it. It makes for longer writing sessions, but I typically won’t look back at my blog and say, “I shouldn’t have said that”, so maybe that is a benefit.
I want to get more on a schedule of writing like I did before, and add some specific posting ideas like a question/answer post, or more informative pages to my blog. I get all caught up in life and I forget that people are really interested in reading about how I cope and what I do to make things stay balanced. I remember scouring the web for someone, anyone, with advice on MPD and what I should do to handle my diagnosis.
I found a few forums but most of the posts were people in turmoil and that scared me more than helped me. I felt like I needed to reach out and help them instead of helping myself. I haven’t looked up resources lately but that is my plan. To link up to the best, most helpful sites, for MPD.
If you know of a blog or forum site that is in this category, please let me know. I’ll consider adding it and sharing it with my readers here. Meanwhile, I have a few posts that I have on paper that I’ll try to type out and share.
I have had a change of pace since my new job and things are moving right along at a fast clip. I am looking forward to summer now and getting some sun (I’ve been putting the top down on my convertible early in the mornings on the way to work to take advantage of the cool time of the day!) but I do hate that I won’t have the same free time I used to have with my children.
They are both extremely understanding and they adjust to change so well. I’m thankful for that. With all the differences in the weather, school systems, house arrangements, etc. they have had such great attitudes about it all.
I’m going to be on a house hunt in a few months now that my budget is set up and steady. I’ve loved the change of pace with my schedule and it has been super easy to readjust to the 8-5 workweek.
I was worried that stepping into a full-time job would be too stressful for me. I feared that it would create problems in my system and unbalance things. I think had I sought a job before, while in Colorado, that would have been the case. At that time I had severe physical pain and that combined with my struggle to stay emotionally balanced would have certainly messed up the scales. But, the way it all happened, worked out excellent for me. I had time to adjust and grow stronger while also getting better after my surgery.
Getting that behind me before going on my job hunt put me into a great balance. Then, I had the TV appearance where I outed myself as someone with MPD, and that brought me to a self-confident level. I really think that saying it out loud and realizing that I was loved, no matter what letters I had in my diagnosis, helped me be stronger on my feet than I ever was in the past.
I truly wish this upon everyone with MPD. That they can find that freedom to not worry about what others think about them and be strong enough to overcome the small things in life, after dealing with much larger things in the past. I still say that we can use this ‘defense mechanism’ for positive things!