Living with MPD

I had someone message me the other day saying, “oops, I sent an IM to someone and it wasn’t meant for them“…:o

Isn’t it amazing how many slip-ups we can have online that are almost impossible in real time, offline? I mean, yes, there’s that time when you whispered about someone while they were right behind you. And that time that you pointed out someone acting stupid and they looked at you while your finger waved their way…but really…do you think that we have more of a chance of inserting our foot into our mouths while blogging?

I do. I also feel too many take advantage of the anonymous nature of the Internet to spew hate and disagreements. Instead of signing a name to their comments they post as ‘anonymous’. Instead of standing up for a fellow blogger, many will sit back and watch the abuse with glee. I can admit I have been lazy or just plain scared to give my opinion on things. If I feel that, I just don’t comment…but if I feel that I have something to add, I don’t sit idle by the sidelines. I comment and sign my name to that comment.

No, I’m not talking about a money issue here. I’m talking about a status problem. Apparently we have a few debts between us, my husband and I, that can only be handled by one person. One or the othe–but not both.

Today I called to inquire on payment methods on an account. I was asked social security numbers, identifying dates and account information questions. I was then told that the operator could not discuss the account with me. I informed her that I am the wife of 10 years to my husband, and surely she can at least let me know payment methods. She let me know that my marriage had nothing to do with the debt.

That’s not so bad but I had to ask a question that made me angry. “Ok, so if this debt is not taken care of, can you report this on my credit?” and of course, you can guess, the answer she told me is “yes, we can, but I cannot discuss the nature of this debt nor payment options with you without a written letter to our office giving you permission…” I said, “well, you can go after me for the debt and put it on my credit but I would not know how or when to pay the debt?” She said, “yes, that’s correct.”

Tell me if I’m wrong here, but if you’re putting something on my credit report, shouldn’t you at least discuss the debt with me? I called my mother (now married over 30 years) and she said it happens to her all the time. I think this is absolutely ridiculous and it made me so mad. I’m all worked up but I guess, deep inside, I’m glad my husband has to call. I don’t think I could speak to them with such grace the next time.

Have you had this happen? Do you know the legalities of this? Does it sound like complete stupidity or am I just being sensitive?

So, yes, I forgot today was Monday and this is getting posted late. I’m still doing my C&C Monday though. In fact, I’m off to C&C some blogs NOW!

Here’s why:

On Mondays I’ve been doing a ‘click and comment‘ day on my own. I post this to remind you how important it is to comment on other blogs. It truly DOES increase your readership and you most often gain regulars that will visit your blog day after day.

What I encourage is for you to click my renter. Then, you comment on that blog and click their renter. Then you comment on that blog and click their renter or someone on their blogroll if they do not have a renter. Do this for as many blogs as you can. Sometimes they go full circle. 

So, let’s get started! Comment and then visit my renter.

I really encourage you to do this at least to 5 comments if you have ANY time at all. It will give you the joy of sharing a few of your opinions on posts and bring you future readers.

Thanks and enjoy Click & Comment Day!

Are you posting Click & Comment on your blog? Add your name to the list with a link to your blog and I’ll come visit. If you do this you not only gain links but new blog-friends as well.

Enjoy! I’m going to try to do this each Monday. Why not start your week off right?

(want to add Click & Comment to YOUR blog? )
PLEASE only add your link if you have a C&C on your blog or plan to do this today. Don’t just spam your site here. THANKS!

Ok, this doesn’t mean what you think it means.  I’ve been awarded the Successful and Outstanding Blog award over at Successful Blog.  I have done what I can to contribute to the blogging world and I feel I’ve only scratched the surface.  This award is certainly a honor and I encourage you to visit the site as well.  It includes so many tips and tricks for bloggers that even if you have been on the blogging scene for years, I would bet you’d find something of use, if not a few good sites to explore.

Thanks to the site owner, Liz, for including me on the SOB list!

Here is what Liz says about current and future SOBs:

They take the conversation to their readers, contribute great ideas, challenge us, make us better, and make our businesses stronger.

I thank every one of our SOBs for thinking what we say is worth passing on.  Good conversation shared can only improve the blogging community.

I believe most of this above is due to ideas like the Click and Comment Monday which truly does bring you more readers, comments and sites to explore.  I have found so many good sites through this experience and I hope that you participate tomorrow in our C&C Monday and find that you do the same.